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Is Evil Necessary?

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What you label as evil essentially depends on which side of the border you are on. I
understand, the only evil on the planet is, people are in pursuit of happiness. In pursuit of
our happiness, we will do many things which we think are perfectly okay, but somebody else thinks is evil. The man whom you call a criminal is also in pursuit of happiness. It is just that he is pursuing it far more vigorously than you. That is why he creates unpleasant results. You worked for 30 days and you made some money; you made this money in pursuit of your happiness. But his longing for happiness is so vigorous that 30 days looks too long. He wants to get it in ten minutes – which you call as crime. He thinks it is just pursuit of happiness.

When you are in pursuit of happiness, you are in some way causing suffering to others all the time. For us to sit in a comfortable home, do you know how many worms, insects and other creatures have suffered? In pursuit of human happiness, every creature on this planet has gone through untold suffering. If you ask the worms and the insects, they will say human beings are evil!

Just an Ant’s Life?

We are doing these things in pursuit of our happiness, but that is not coming easy for others. It is just that we think, “Oh, it is just a damn insect,” but an insect does not think so. In an insect’s mind, the most important life on this planet is an insect’s life. If you try to crush an ant, does it not do everything in its capability to save itself? Obviously it values its life. It does not think, “Oh, just an ant’s life. Okay, take it.” How much you value your life, the same is instilled in every life.

The moment you are in pursuit of happiness, you do not know what you are doing to others. If your life is an expression of your joy, you will still do some of these things, but only to the extent it is necessary – no more. And that is all you can do. You cannot stop completely. If you simply inhale and exhale, a million microorganisms die. Your existence is evil, if you want to look at it that way. But if you were very pleasant within yourself, you would not do it to an unnecessary length and extent.

Let us not go about labeling people as good and evil. The essential problem is; we believe too many things that we do not know. If you see, “what I know, I know; what I do not know, I do not know,” you have no fight with anybody. If you believe something is right, somebody else believes something else is right – do you think the fight is ever going to stop?

Violence and war are not happening just like that. They are in pursuit of somebody’s happiness. If you were joyful by your own nature, then you would not do anything that is not needed. You would conduct your life sensibly to the extent it is needed.

 

 

 

 

 

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Why Friendship Should be a Choice

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The Friendship Project:

You have lots of friends. You know that some of them are “good guys” and others are…well, not so much. And, you realize that some of these friends can influence you in bad ways, while others inspire you to do more and be better through the examples they set each day.

  • ..We Shouldn’t Leave this Important Activity to Chance

Most of us let friendship just happen. We encounter people as we go about our daily routines…attending school, going to work, participating in sports, enjoying our hobbies. As we make our daily rounds, we encounter people that we like and, when the feeling is mutual, friendships develop. For the most part, our friendships develop by chance…we go about our lives and “whatever happens, happens” in the friendship department.

But rather than rely solely on chance to build your friendship circles, you should take this on as an important project, a friendship project. You should think about ways you can promote sound friendship development in your life, and then make the choices needed to turn those plans into specific actions and activities. You can update and use this plan your entire life as the importance of developing friendships will continue until your dying day.

  • Friendships Are Great Investments

Friends can bring fun, laughs and an endless number of enjoyable moments into our lives. Friends can be there for us when we need someone to talk to and guide us through difficult situations. Friends can be influential concerning our job/career as they become a part of the network that we use to find our way through life. Friends can introduce us to new friends and expand our life experiences. Friends play so many important roles.

“Spending time with friends is fun, but it may also yield many long-term physical and emotional benefits.  Studies show that healthy relationships make aging more enjoyable, lessen grief and provide camaraderie to help you reach your personal goals. Maintaining positive friendships should rank up there with healthy eating and exercise as an important investment in your health.”

Before making an important financial investment, most of us would think carefully about it, do some homework concerning options and develop a plan to accomplish our financial objectives. Well, your friendships are important, too – more than money will ever be. So, the time you spend to develop sound friendships is, in many ways, an investment that you are making in your future.  That’s why we recommend that you get just as serious about the project of building your friendship circle as you would about investing your money.

In some ways, this element of chance will exist as you implement your friendship project as well.  But, by going about this in a planned, well-thought-out way, you are much more likely to develop meaningful and long-lasting friendships, and to develop more of them. So, improve your chances – and significantly so – by getting started on your friendship project today.

“A true friend is the greatest of all blessings, 
and that which we take the least care to acquire.”

What You Need to Know to Get Started

  • Acquaintances vs. Friends.There is a big difference between an acquaintance and a true friend, and we need to be aware of this difference. An acquaintance, of course, is someone we know casually…a “we know them when we see them” kind of thing. On the other hand, a friend is “a person who we know, like and trust.” You could even expand this definition to know well, like a lot and trust implicitly. And, why is this distinction important? Well, for two reasons. You will have many, many more acquaintances than friends, so don’t expect it to be the other way around. True friends are hard to come by and most of us only have a few at a time. The second, and more important reason, is that you need to be very careful how you let an acquaintance influence your life or talk you into something that you may not be too sure about. True friends will likely be more concerned about your well being, acquaintances – maybe or maybe not.
  • Number of Friends.There are thousands of people living within a few dozen miles of most of us. However, our “friendship world” includes only a very small portion of these. According to Lewis Smith in his book Whatever Happened to What’s-His-Name?, we have approximately 400 “pals, mates, chums or buddies” during our lifetime, but only about 30 at any one time. Smith further points out that, on average, only about five or six of these would be considered “close friends in whom we confide and trust.” Although the exact number may be difficult for most of us to pin down, the important point is this – the benefits of true friendship are delivered to us by a very limited number of people.  Therefore, we should put some careful thought into who those friends will be.
  • The Influence of Friends.Another important point about friends – the level of influence that friendships have in our lives and the way we live it can be very significant. Your friends can influence you in many ways. What your friend is wearing to the party can determine your clothing choices as well. The opinion your friends have of someone, with little awareness, can become your opinion as well. Where your friends want to go and what they want to do can quickly become your plans, too. Even your friends’ little sayings or mannerisms can frequently become a part of your conduct. If you fail to manage these influences and maintain the independence to make your own choices, you can become much “like everyone else” without even noticing it or thinking about it.

Developing Your Own Friendship Project

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This is your friendship project and you are, of course, free to design it as you think best. It should be your own plan and contain activities that are important possibilities to you. Here are our suggestions for some of the steps or ideas you can consider as you put this plan together.

  • Give It Some Careful Thought.  This may be one of the most important “life planning” activities you have ever done.  Other decisions may take on a greater importance as your life moves along, but right now this is probably the most important thing “on your list.” So take some time and give some careful thought to the activities and choices involved.
  • Write It Down/Review It from Time to Time. More careful thought is required to write something down than to just give it some casual thinking. So write down the steps or activities that you want to be a part of your plan.  Save this plan, edit/update it from time to time and “get it out” frequently so you can review it to determine the actual progress you have made.
  • Decide if You Need Someone to Help You.  There are two other reports in this section titled A Valued Listener(Part 1 and Part 2). If you haven’t read them, maybe you should do that as part of your friendship project plan. You can then determine if you need a valued listener (as Gran was for Sydney in the story above) …a person to help you develop and work through the activities in your friendship plan.
  • Start by Being a Good Friend. Perform a little self-assessment…are there some personal changes that you need to make to qualify as a good friend yourself? Do you need to be a little nicer? Do you need to be more helpful? Do you need to stop doing some things that you know are not good for you? What do you need to be doing to be a better person and, at some point, a better friend? Put these into your plan and start now to make the choices to make these adjustments happen.
  • Look within Your Family. Look with your family…this is the best place to start developing real and important friendships. Who knows…your sister, your brother, your mom or dad, or even your cousin may also be an important and influential friendship in your life. Sometimes, there is a hands off attitude that develops within families…watch out and make sure such an attitude is not hindering some of the most important friendships you may ever have.
  • Join Special Groups or Clubs.  Join a school club where you will find others who have the same interests as you. This could be a club in your school or community or an athletic team. If you are not into sports, reconsider the importance of being so. Not only is physical activity good for you, but the experience of practicing, sweating, playing, winning and even losing can be one of the best friendship development experiences of your life.
  • Volunteer to Do Something for OthersVolunteering at a charity or nonprofit organization can bring you in contact with like-minded people. If you are interested in animals, volunteer at the local animal shelter where you may meet others who are interested in helping animals as well. If you are into reading, volunteer at the local library. Maybe you are interested in the field of human health and would like to help at the hospital. There are limitless choices for volunteerism that will also allow you to meet others with interests similar to yours.
  • Conduct Special Friendship ExpeditionsThis could be attending a summer camp, tutoring a young person in your school, feeding the homeless in one of the kitchens in your community or reaching out to help a family that has just moved to your town or neighborhood. Just look around for something or someone who needs some extra help and provide it.

These are but a few ideas to help you get started with your friendship project. Everyone can benefit from the development of such a plan. You may be the most popular person at your school or in your neighborhood, but you can still gain new and important friends from doing this work. You may, on the other hand, feel that you don’t have enough friends or that, like Sydney, you’ve got the wrong group of friends.

You have the power to change your friendship circumstances. You just have to think carefully about what you need to do, develop your friendship plan, and then make the choices required to fully implement it.